2 words you should never say to a new mom

2 words you should never say to a new mom

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SALT LAKE CITY — Last September, I gave birth to a 7 pound, 7 ounce, perfect little boy. And, yes, I did say, “perfect.”

From the second I laid eyes on him, I was in awe of his cuteness. With his big blue eyes, soft lips and kissable cheeks, he is the epitome of perfection. I find myself staring at his little face, afraid to look away, risking missing one of his smiles that brightens up the whole room. He is the perfect mix of his three older brothers, while at the same time has some softness from his two older sisters. It is no wonder he is so handsome.

It is true that I am his mother, making for perhaps an overly biased opinion; and although the descriptions of my son are opinion-based — although I would like to cite them as factual — his perfection does not stop at his physical appearance.


I smiled and proudly proclaimed that he was perfect. Fully expecting to hear congratulatory words of praise, or even get a nice smile, I received neither. Instead, I was met with, "just wait."

As I took care of my baby in the hospital, it was a rarity that he even made a peep … out of his mouth. He did, however make plenty of (noises) out of his other end, for which I was able to proudly report to the nurses that those particular functions were working quite well. And to add a little icing to the cake, he sleeps really well — self-soothing with his perfect little thumb on his right hand.

As I neared the end of my stay at the hospital, the pediatrician stopped by. During his visit, he asked me how my baby was. I smiled and proudly proclaimed that he was perfect. Fully expecting to hear congratulatory words of praise, or even get a nice smile, I received neither. Instead, I was met with, “just wait.”

“Just wait?” As simple as those two words are, I can't think of another two words that will put a kink in a mother's stride faster than they can. And as much as I wish it was the only time that these words were said to me, in the seven months since he was born, I have heard them more times than I care to count.

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As a mother of six kids, I am well-aware of the fact that there are the “terrible twos,” or in our case, the “frightening fives” and “emotional eights.” I know that he will keep me up many a night, whether it is due to tantrum, fever or a tantrum-induced fever when he is a teenager. I know there will be times when we will be frustrated with each other, making me question his perfection (and mine).

I know all-too-well the truthfulness of your “just wait” comment, but please, keep it to yourself. Let me bask in his perfection, even if it is just for a little while.

So, the next time you see a mother, gawking at her perfect little baby, don't “just wait” her; instead, smile at her and fill her with congratulatory words of praise for her little one. After all, we all know it will only last so long ….


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About the Author: Arianne Brown -------------------------------

Arianne Brown is a mother of six who loves running the beautiful trails around Utah. For more articles by Arianne, "like" her Facebook page, follow her on Twitter @arimom5, or visit her blog, timetofititin.com. If you have a story to share, contact her at ariannebrown1@gmail.com.

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